Our modern word ‘Sarcasm’ actually comes from an old Latin word that means to cut or serrate, like with a knife. That’s why we still refer to humor with words like “sharp” or “cutting” — because often, it literally is. But instead of creating physical wounds, it creates emotional ones.
That’s why I call it “scarcasm.”
If you saw someone wandering around using a knife to slash at anyone who approached him, you’d assume that person had some issues. It’s not a stretch to assume he’s probably been wounded himself, and those wounds have taken their toll. It’s much the same with a sarcastic person.
Sarcasm is a defense mechanism.
It’s a way of saying what you don’t mean while meaning what you don’t say!
“Oh, wow, thanks soooo much for all the help.”
“Oooh, you deserve a break. You’ve worked soooo hard today.”
“Well, thanks for listening. Could you BE any more sensitive?”
Sarcasm is simply a way to bury your true feelings in little attacks disguised as jokes.
We resort to it when we’re afraid of intimacy. You’re afraid that if you do open up and reveal what you really feel, it’s going to get attacked. So, you clothe it in sarcasm, make a quick jab and stay protected.
Next time you want to get sarcastic, stop and realize that you are just trying to open up, but don’t know how. You’re wielding your knives because you’re afraid that if you go out unarmed, you’re going to get stabbed.
PS. Does this resonate? Agree or disagree? I’d love to hear your thoughts below!